Single Life

By Sherry Obenauer M.Ed., M.A.
What's wrong with being single? A whole lot if you go by what you see around you. Whether you visit a bookstore or a library, watch television, go to the movies, listen to friends and family, adopt the values of society, or read the newspaper, messages about couplehood prevail. Little is spoken about being single, except as a condition to avoid like the plague. In the dawn of a new millennium, it's time to say what being single is really all about.
Visit any bookstore and you'll find dozens of books about relationships; how to keep them together, how to grieve the loss of a loved one, how to find and keep the "perfect" mate, how to satisfy your lover sexually, and the list goes on and on. Rarely will you find books on being single unless they relate to healing some aspect of yourself in preparation for a relationship.
Being single can be a life-saving, rejuvenating experience. In fact, one can't truly be successful in a relationship without being single for a time. Being single allows us to do what we want, when we want, and with whom we want without having to answer to anyone. Being single allows us to take full responsibility for paying our bills, cleaning and decorating, cooking our meals, planning our activities, and entertaining ourselves. It allows us the time to sit in quiet solitude, to run naked around the living room, to belch as loud as we want, and secretly watch shows that no one else would actually ever admit to watching. This is because we have more time on our hands and are not avoiding looking at ourselves by focusing our energies on someone else.
down in the dumps - depressed; "blue"
drop someone a line - write to someone
feel blue - feel sad and depressed.
for ages - for a very long time.
get going - leave.
get lost! - go awayGet real! - Be realistic! / Don't be naive.
Why do you think some people remain single?
Would you like to be single all your life?
Is it better to be single or married? Why?
What are the advantages of being single?
Do you think that single people are happier?
Do you think it is easier for man or woman to be single?
Why did you think some people prefer to be single?
How do you think single people feel on Valentine's Day?
Do you think that there is a soulmate somewhere for everyone?
Do you think that single people like being single?
In your country, what do people think about a woman in her 30s who is unmarried?
In your country, what do people think about a man in his 30s who is unmarried?
In your country, do single people of opposite sex ever live together as roommates, not as boyfriend/girlfriend?
What is the feeling of getting old alone?
Could we really be happy with all that the achievements that we have now than having a family of our own?
Is it true that we can never have a successful career and a successful lovelife at the same time?
Can you imagine yourself growing old alone?
Can you handle problems without needing somebody whom you can call a partner in life?
Can you picture yourself attending your needs on your own when you get old?
Is single blessedness a choice or a fate?